Jason James, MD

Dr. James is a father of three and an ob-gyn in private practice with FemCare Ob-Gyn in Miami, FL.

What’s your specialty? I’m an ob-gyn.

How many children do you have? I have 8 ½- and 6-year-old sons and a 4-year-old daughter.

What’s the one thing about being a new dad that shouldn’t be missed? Bed time! A ritual I’ve had with all of my kids is putting them to bed. I sing them a song and read them a book. You can’t replace that. Many nights, I fell asleep reading to them! When your kids get older, the ritual changes, but it’s still wonderful. Now, my kids are reading to me.

What’s the most surprising lesson that being a dad has taught you? How fast the time flies. I can hardly believe that my kids are all in school and camp. You really need to appreciate each stage of their lives. When that stage is over, you can’t get it back!

Career, marriage, kids…How does a guy stay sane? Finding that work/life balance is one of the biggest challenges of being a dad. As an ob-gyn, I work crazy, long hours. I don’t have a 9-to-5 job, and my weekends aren’t always free! Sometimes, I’m out in the middle of the night working, and I come home tired. On one hand I desperately want to spend time with my family, but on the other hand, I need some alone time to decompress. As a dad, we wear three hats: career, father, and self. It’s important to get some me-time. I try to keep find a balance where I spend time with my children, but I don’t feel like I’m constantly being pulled between work and family.

I think the key is to be flexible and to communicate with your partner. My wife and I check our calendars, and we work out the best way to get everything we need to accomplished. One thing that helps is even though we might want to do everything together as a family, we don’t have to do everything as a family. Sometimes it’s more efficient and practical to divide up tasks, for example I might take the boys for a haircut while my wife takes my daughter to a princess party. Another benefit to this is that our kids get special one-on-one time with my wife and me.

Dr. James’s Q&As

My wife wants to breastfeed our baby, but it’s not going well. Did you have this challenge and how did you cope?

As my kids get older, it’s more and more difficult to carve out family time. How do you do it?