Adam Mamelak, MD

Dr. Mamelak is a dad of an 18-month-old child and a dermatologist in private practice with Sanova Dermatology in Austin, Texas.

What was the biggest challenge you faced while your wife was pregnant, and how did you overcome it? When my wife first got pregnant, I knew life  was going to be different. However, watching my wife change during pregnancy, I sometimes didn’t feel part of the process. From all aspects of the pregnancy good and bad, from the morning sickness to the soft kicks in her stomach, it was hard to connect. I reminded myself that my wife and I were true partners in this entire adventure, every step of the way. I looked for ways I could support and care for her any way I could. Yes, sometimes this meant attending to those household chores I planned to file away. But I realized that by doing whatever I could do to help, I was helping the whole family—and preparing for my son.

What’s the most surprising lesson that being a dad has taught you? Enjoy every moment. With the sleepless nights, relentless cries, and last-minute changes in plans, it’s easy to get stressed and frustrated. I always found being able to laugh about these situations was the best way to approach these situations. Besides, 20 years from now, I’m not going to be upset my son refused to be put to bed and only wanted to sleep in my lap. I’ll probably just smile and miss it!

What’s the one bit of advice about fatherhood you wish someone had given you much earlier? Patience is key. Children are often on their own schedules. There’s no point getting stressed when things don’t go exactly as planned. Everything will still get done, maybe just in a different order. Sometimes those last-minute changes also reveal some pretty wonderful things that would have otherwise been missed.

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Dr. Mamelak’s Q&As

How do you protect your baby from the sun?

Why does my baby have eczema?