Getulio Tovar, MD

Dr. Tovar is a father of three and a psychiatrist in Lexington, Kentucky.

What’s your specialty? Psychiatry

How many children do you have?  Three, ages 27, 34, and 36.

What’s the biggest challenge you’ve faced as a dad? I would say the balancing of my work and work-related responsibilities with my family.  It can be hard for an on-call physician to make time for the kids, but I always tried to be involved with their school functions and being involved in sports in particular coaching soccer.

What’s the most surprising lesson that being a dad has taught you? To be an effective father really has very little to do with education and socioeconomic background, you can be rich and very educated, yet your parenting is ineffective.  On the other hand you can see a thriving parent that has little academic education and a relatively poor socioeconomic background.  Essentially, your competency as a father doesn’t depend on your education and background.

What’s the most underrated thing about fatherhood? People used to say that the first two years of a child’s life, the father’s presence didn’t matter.  I think the father does matter; your child needs you as much as he or she needs your wife. Being involved in the early developmental stages of your child’s life is critical.

Career, marriage, kids…How does a guy stay sane? Freud described normality as an equal share of love, work, and play. I think we need to take time for ourselves, be that in social settings with other friends, working out, or another activity for yourself and yourself only.

Dr. Tovar’s Q&A

My wife is pregnant, due next week. How do you plan for the delivery around your work schedule and other commitments?